In many marriages, a cheating husband is the worst kind of betrayal. You feel angry, confused, unattractive and hateful. These are all natural feelings to have. After all, you are only human and you never thought this could happen in your marriage. However, as difficult as it may sound, there has to come a point where there is closure; where you learn to love again.
Mixed Emotions
If after hearing the news both of you decide to make your marriage work, remember that it will not be easy. There are days that you will cry your eyes out, feel revengeful and wish something horrible would happen to both of them.
Other days you will feel at peace, in love with your spouse and everything will seem to be getting back to normal.
Then, as though you had split personalities, you will switch and start experiencing the hurts and pains all over again.
You may feel weird going through these mixed emotions but most spouses experiencing your situation feel the same. It is also perfectly natural and sometimes expected.
Reflection
This is an opportune time to reflect on your marriage as a couple. Do not become withdrawn and uncommunicative. This will only make matters worst.
Ask yourself these questions:
Have both of us been allowing things to slide (unresolved conflicts, constant arguing and bickering, sleeping in separate rooms when you have an argument etc.
Are we totally consumed with our work, paying the bills, taking care of the children and our home?
Are we totally consumed with our work, paying the bills, taking care of the children and our home?
- Have alone times become non-existent?
- Have we stopped going on dates with each other?
- Do we do special things for each other on a regular basis? E.g. candle light dinners, a rose, surprising him or her with their favorite dessert.
The aim of this exercise is to work as a team to make your marriage stronger; to ensure that this does not happen again.
Learn to Love Again
We always try to remind couples that time heals all wounds. For some it takes one month, for others a year and for others even longer. The question you need to ask yourself is how long are you willing to live in an unhappy and miserable state? This will determine how quickly you move on.
You can decide to spend next week being miserable, uptight and angry or you can allow the healing process to take place. If your spouse is showing remorse, being open with you and is doing everything possible to make your relationship work, then it is time you move on and learn to love again.
In order to be in love you need to do loving things. Start with the things you did in the good old days and improve upon them. The things you did with each other that brought you laughter, joy, happiness and peace.
Today is your day to turn the page, start again, love him again.
About The Authors:
Mark and Lesia Gregory are Marriage Counselors & Wedding Planners with over 10 years of experience. They are the founders and authors of the Marriage Thermometer Principles. This is a unique Marriage Therapy Solution that is revolutionizing the way couples solve marriage problems.
Mark and Lesia Gregory are Marriage Counselors & Wedding Planners with over 10 years of experience. They are the founders and authors of the Marriage Thermometer Principles. This is a unique Marriage Therapy Solution that is revolutionizing the way couples solve marriage problems.
They have never had an argument lasting more than 15 Minutes and have never gone to bed upset with each other. People find this difficult to believe but they have proven that it is more than possible.
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