Marriage Counseling - Keep Your Husband Satisfied at Home and Save Your Marriage

Husbands by and large give varied reasons for seeking sexual or emotional fulfillment outside the home. But one thing is for sure, many of them were not getting the type of fulfillment they hoped for at home. Some had unrealistic expectations while others were asking for the basic needs that a wife should fulfill.

Now, we do not condone a cheating spouse and do not believe that any situation should cause a partner to seek satisfaction from anyone apart from his wife. Nevertheless, the truth remains that many husbands do this and it is up to you to safeguard the purity and sanctity of your marriage.

Men generally have a higher sex drive than women (although you have many marriages with the reverse) therefore, as wives we need to be willing to give much more to create a balance and two way satisfaction in our marriage.

There are too many women out there who would be willing to satisfy your spouse at the drop of a pin. So, if you are not doing it you may be asking for trouble.

Let us look at some simple but powerful ways that you can keep your husband satisfied at home:

A Peaceful Home
Nothing is more unappealing than a home mixed with strife, a nagging wife and constant arguing. If your home is not peaceful then your husband may not want to be there. He may seek a more peaceful environment somewhere else.

Therefore, if as he comes through the door you bombard him with all the negatives, this is what he will grow to expect and in his eyes you are not that loving and considerate wife he hoped for.

Now, he may not be the loving and considerate husband you also hoped for and if this is the case we would advice you to get your feeling out in the open once and for all and come up with a plan as a couple.

A Daring Spirit
Men love adventure, action and escapades. You need to ensure that he receives all of that at home.

Some wives are too rigid and are unwilling to try new things. My advice to every wife is to be daring and adventurous with your husbands once it is in the guidelines of just the two of you. No one else and nothing else.

You can rent a hotel for the night and meet up there. Do a strip tease for him and so many other ideas that take creativity and some amount of planning.

A Loving Heart
Pleasing your spouse really boils down to a loving heart. Do you love him enough to keep him satisfied? Take some time this week to better understand him. What his likes and dislikes are and how you fit in. Many couples have been living together for years and still do not know these basic things about their spouse.

If you want to take your marriage to a new and renewed height then put your whole heart in it and you will be amazed at the possibilities.

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Christian Marriage Advice - 3 Ways to Know if You Respect Your Husband

Every wife wants to have a loving and respectful husband but when it comes to us respecting our husbands we often times compromise. There are three ways to know if you are being respectful to your husband and we will look at them below:

What Does the Bible Say?
Once I am counseling a wife and I find out she is a Christian I go straight for the bible. If this is what we live by then it should be applied to every area of our lives. The role of a wife is no exception, because the bible explicitly encourages wives to respect their husbands.

Let us look at what Ephesians chapter six and verse thirty three says, "However, each of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

The first half tells the husband to love his wife. We will have to discuss this in another article. What I want you to focus on is the second half that relates directly to you.

Now, respect cannot be conditional, if you respect me I will respect you. That is not how it works. Too often we allow the other person's behavior to dictate our actions and we end up having a troubled marriage.

How Do You speak To Him?
Wives, it is not okay to fly off the handle and at the same time expect our husbands to pamper, adore and respect us.

Love and respect has to go both ways. I am always sobered by Proverbs chapter twenty five verse twenty four which says, "Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife."

This is exactly how many husbands feel when you are always quarrelling, arguing or nagging. I have heard of wives who complain that their husbands do not love to stay home. That they prefer hanging with the boys, that they stay back late at work or are just no where to be found.

Many times, these wives are the ones who contribute to their husbands' absence because their husbands prefer being around individuals who treat them with more respect. Maybe you are experiencing this situation. Maybe you need to look at how you have contributed to this distance. Maybe you need to tame your tongue.

How Do You Speak About Him With Your Friends?
Respect is not only expected when you are with your husband but also when you are apart.
There are many wives who speak badly about their husbands with their friends. Sometimes, if their friends did not know their husbands they would think they were talking about a monster.

Because of this attitude their friends sometimes lose respect for him and treat him with the same amount of contempt. This is done in front of and behind his back

It is your responsibility to ensue that you are not only respectful of your husband but that you expect it of your friends. They should know where you stand in this area and should never be allowed to cross the line.

Let us remember our role as wives and ensure that we are helping to make our marriage a success.

About The Authors:
Mark and Lesia Gregory are Marriage Counselors & Wedding Planners with over 10 years of experience. They are the authors of: "The Marriage Thermometer - Let's get your marriage steaming hot; "Improve Your Sex Life; "Keep Him Satisfied......At Home and "The Wife Toolkit - 12 heavy duty tools to keep your wife happy.

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Marriage Advice For Wives - Sometimes You May Need to Bite Your Tongue to Save Your Marriage

As wives we sometimes allow our tongues to destroy our marriages. We say things that come to our mouths and could not care less if our husbands are offended. However, what many wives fail to realize is that words can sometimes cut deeper and hurt more severely than any weapon that causes a physical wound.

Maybe your tongue is destroying your marriage and you are not even aware of it. You blame everything and everyone else while you need to pay attention to what you say and how you say it.
The remainder of this article will look at two ways your tongue can destroy your marriage and how to use it to save your marriage.

Using Your Tongue as a Weapon
Compared to most men, women seem to have the gift of converting words to weapons. We know exactly what to say to pierce our husbands and cause them to feel hurt or guilty about something they did or said. However, in the same way that a weapon can kill, your words can also kill your marriage.

• Do you deliberately use disrespectful words to your husband?
• Do you put him down in front of your girlfriends?
• Do you use curse words when having an argument?

Do you use words to get him to shut up so that you can have your own way?

Proverbs chapter twenty one and verse nineteen tells us that, "better to live in a dessert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife". I think this passage is so true for many husbands. They would prefer to be uncomfortable somewhere else than to be around you.

Take some time to analyze your marriage to ensure that this is not happening in your marriage.

Using Your Tongue to Push Away Your Husband
Many husbands become unresponsive and uncommunicative because they are afraid of what will come out of their spouse's mouth if they are to have a conversation with them. So instead of talking to them about issues that concern them, they find other women.
Sadly but true these relationships can lead to emotional affairs which in many cases also lead to physical affairs.

Another way of pushing away your husband is by nagging him. Some wives have mastered the art of nagging in order to get their own way. But although they get their own way today, this is causing resentment on their husbands' part and eventually this can lead to a lack of love, affection and intimacy.

Using Your Tongue to Heal Your Marriage
In order to heal your marriage you may need to bite your tongue at times. Biting your tongue means to take control of it, being careful of what you say. However, for some wives who have no self control, you may need to literally bite it in order to stop you from talking without thinking.

Let us now look at some positive ways to use your tongue to heal your marriage, especially if you have been using it as a weapon or to push away your husband.

• Use it to show your husband much love and affection
• Use it to encourage and build him up
• Use it to cultivate passion and romance in your marriage
• Use it to keep your husband faithful

Use it to have a peaceful marriage

Use it to be an accommodating and respectful wife

Conclusion
Never underestimate the power of your tongue and ensure that your husband sees it as a loving tool and not a destructive weapon. Watching what you say is one of the fastest ways to save your marriage and encourage your husband to be more communicative and loving.

About The Authors:
Mark and Lesia Gregory are Marriage Counselors & Wedding Planners with over 10 years of experience. They are the founders and authors of the Marriage Thermometer Principles. This is a unique Marriage Therapy Solution that is revolutionizing the way couples solve marriage problems.

They have never had an argument lasting more than 15 Minutes and have never gone to bed upset with each other. People find this difficult to believe but they have proven that it is more than possible.

Learn their secret and save your marriage starting today: http://marriagethermometer.com/

Do you want to be a better spouse? Do you really want to save your marriage? Life is too short to spend it wishing you had a happy and steaming hot marriage when you can do something about it. Get your FREE Marriage Ecourse

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Save Your Marriage – Surviving Your Husband’s Infidelity and Learning to Love Again

In many marriages, a cheating husband is the worst kind of betrayal. You feel angry, confused, unattractive and hateful. These are all natural feelings to have. After all, you are only human and you never thought this could happen in your marriage. However, as difficult as it may sound, there has to come a point where there is closure; where you learn to love again.

Mixed Emotions

If after hearing the news both of you decide to make your marriage work, remember that it will not be easy. There are days that you will cry your eyes out, feel revengeful and wish something horrible would happen to both of them.

Other days you will feel at peace, in love with your spouse and everything will seem to be getting back to normal.

Then, as though you had split personalities, you will switch and start experiencing the hurts and pains all over again.

You may feel weird going through these mixed emotions but most spouses experiencing your situation feel the same. It is also perfectly natural and sometimes expected.

Reflection

This is an opportune time to reflect on your marriage as a couple. Do not become withdrawn and uncommunicative. This will only make matters worst.

Ask yourself these questions:

Have both of us been allowing things to slide (unresolved conflicts, constant arguing and bickering, sleeping in separate rooms when you have an argument etc.
Are we totally consumed with our work, paying the bills, taking care of the children and our home?

• Have alone times become non-existent?

• Have we stopped going on dates with each other?

• Do we do special things for each other on a regular basis? E.g. candle light dinners, a rose, surprising him or her with their favorite dessert.

The aim of this exercise is to work as a team to make your marriage stronger; to ensure that this does not happen again.

Learn to Love Again

We always try to remind couples that time heals all wounds. For some it takes one month, for others a year and for others even longer. The question you need to ask yourself is how long are you willing to live in an unhappy and miserable state? This will determine how quickly you move on.

You can decide to spend next week being miserable, uptight and angry or you can allow the healing process to take place. If your spouse is showing remorse, being open with you and is doing everything possible to make your relationship work, then it is time you move on and learn to love again.

In order to be in love you need to do loving things. Start with the things you did in the good old days and improve upon them. The things you did with each other that brought you laughter, joy, happiness and peace.

Today is your day to turn the page, start again, love him again.

About The Authors:
Mark and Lesia Gregory are Marriage Counselors & Wedding Planners with over 10 years of experience. They are the founders and authors of the Marriage Thermometer Principles. This is a unique Marriage Therapy Solution that is revolutionizing the way couples solve marriage problems.

They have never had an argument lasting more than 15 Minutes and have never gone to bed upset with each other. People find this difficult to believe but they have proven that it is more than possible.

Learn their secret and save your marriage starting today: http://marriagethermometer.com/
Do you want to regain that happiness and intimacy you once shared with your spouse? Life is too short to spend it wishing you had a happy and steaming hot marriage when you can do something about it. Get your FREE Marriage Ecourse

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Deep Thrust Massages

Some spouses believe any sensual touch should lead to intercourse. But it doesn't have to. Consider dancing cheek to cheek, it's sensual but nonsexual. Try giving and receiving back rubs and foot massages. If it leads to some "deep thrust massages", then............well, you get the point.

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Valentine's Day Tip #2

Buy some rose petals and place them behind the sun visor on the passenger side of your car. Take a post it note and write, "I Love You" on it and stick it to the back of the sun visor.
As you are driving to a romantic destination, look at your partner and tell her she has a mark on her cheek. She will pull down the sun visor to use the mirror and be showered in rose petals and see your note.

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Valentine's Day Tip #1

Buy the domain name of your partner's name if it is available for example www.TanyaJohnston.com. Create a web page containing a romantic poem and a picture of a rose. When your partner is surfing the web, casually ask whether she has ever checked to see whether her domain name is taken. Let her type it in to discover her page.

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