Christian Marriage Advice - 3 Ways to Know if You Respect Your Husband

Every wife wants to have a loving and respectful husband but when it comes to us respecting our husbands we often times compromise. There are three ways to know if you are being respectful to your husband and we will look at them below:

What Does the Bible Say?
Once I am counseling a wife and I find out she is a Christian I go straight for the bible. If this is what we live by then it should be applied to every area of our lives. The role of a wife is no exception, because the bible explicitly encourages wives to respect their husbands.

Let us look at what Ephesians chapter six and verse thirty three says, "However, each of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

The first half tells the husband to love his wife. We will have to discuss this in another article. What I want you to focus on is the second half that relates directly to you.

Now, respect cannot be conditional, if you respect me I will respect you. That is not how it works. Too often we allow the other person's behavior to dictate our actions and we end up having a troubled marriage.

How Do You speak To Him?
Wives, it is not okay to fly off the handle and at the same time expect our husbands to pamper, adore and respect us.

Love and respect has to go both ways. I am always sobered by Proverbs chapter twenty five verse twenty four which says, "Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife."

This is exactly how many husbands feel when you are always quarrelling, arguing or nagging. I have heard of wives who complain that their husbands do not love to stay home. That they prefer hanging with the boys, that they stay back late at work or are just no where to be found.

Many times, these wives are the ones who contribute to their husbands' absence because their husbands prefer being around individuals who treat them with more respect. Maybe you are experiencing this situation. Maybe you need to look at how you have contributed to this distance. Maybe you need to tame your tongue.

How Do You Speak About Him With Your Friends?
Respect is not only expected when you are with your husband but also when you are apart.
There are many wives who speak badly about their husbands with their friends. Sometimes, if their friends did not know their husbands they would think they were talking about a monster.

Because of this attitude their friends sometimes lose respect for him and treat him with the same amount of contempt. This is done in front of and behind his back

It is your responsibility to ensue that you are not only respectful of your husband but that you expect it of your friends. They should know where you stand in this area and should never be allowed to cross the line.

Let us remember our role as wives and ensure that we are helping to make our marriage a success.

About The Authors:
Mark and Lesia Gregory are Marriage Counselors & Wedding Planners with over 10 years of experience. They are the authors of: "The Marriage Thermometer - Let's get your marriage steaming hot; "Improve Your Sex Life; "Keep Him Satisfied......At Home and "The Wife Toolkit - 12 heavy duty tools to keep your wife happy.

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